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"When I'm in a dispute with some individual I start to feel anxious, irate and pulled over from the person. By then I start to consider the conflict, what I said, what the other individual said, and it proceeds until the end of time. It makes me feel anxious. What to do in these conditions?"
Lissel, you feel tense and furious and you pull back in light of the fact that you are abandoning yourself rather than valuing yourself. There are only two techniques for regulating battle that are needing to you.
If you are fit for opening to getting some answers concerning how you see things and how the other individual sees things, and you feel that the other individual will open to learning with you, then it's needing to yourself to open to acknowledging, which can provoke to win-win battle assurance.
If you can't open or you know the other individual won't open, then valuing yourself suggests lovingly isolating, which is inside and out unique in relation to withdrawal. When you pull back, you are enraged and repelling the other individual by pulling back your warmth, however when you tenderly pull back, you are valuing yourself by getting yourself out of extent of the conflict. By then, do your Internal Holding work and return 30 minutes to check whether assurance is possible. If not, you need to decide for yourself what is needing to you even with the other individual being closed to assurance.